Robin, as you begin to shift into the next phase of your life, the next level of your life; you will have to make sure to continue to take care of yourself. For you, that looks like rest. I know you are full of excitement for the things to come, you’re working overtime, and so is your brain, but you have to rest without guilt. The consequence of not taking the time to slow down, to rest, pause, or be still could be detrimental to your health. Be excited, be ready, go forward, but mind your mind. Don’t let it get away from you. Be blessed.
Today was a slow day at work. I had only one client, so I spent the majority of the day on my plans. I was posting on Instagram, looking up business classes, watching sermons online, checking up on my website domain. So many things. It was fun and exciting. I loved every minute of it. I went to work for an hour or so and then picked up my children. We went to the park. It was fun watching my kids enjoy outside. Although, I don’t like the cold fall air too much; I enjoy the beauty of it. The beautiful colors of the leaves make me happy.
However, when I came home I was exhausted. I had dinner with my kids and climbed into bed to watch movies. I felt guilty about it. I haven’t felt guilty in a while about resting, but it seems that my life is changing and as a result my norm is shifting as well. I have to do some readjusting. As I enter these new stages in my life, I have to make sure that I always incorporate self-care without guilt. Although following my passion gives me so much energy, I find that I can be depleted in the midst of my excitement. So, taking a rest is and will always be essential to my well being. Is it essential to yours? Are you making sure to take care of yourself without guilt?
Are you like me and feel that you are entering a new level in life? Have you figured out what getting to the next level looks for you? Whatever the next level looks like for you, in your life, make sure you are taking care of yourself as the shift is approaching and once you get there, readjust your self-care regiment as needed.
Some methods that I used when I first started to get mentally healthy was introspection and journaling which allowed me to keep track of what I was feeling and when. Also, journaling definitely creates aha moments where you get answers to questions you have and missing pieces to your jigsaw puzzle that pushes you to new levels in your mental health journey. I also made an effort to began to change the way I viewed myself. Somewhere in my life, I had created a warped image of who I thought I was and it was really negative. It was important to my health that I change that. Lastly, I gave myself permission to take my time. It was early in my journey that I realized I could not keep up with the fast pace of life and that it was necessary for me to rest.
Nowadays, my self-care methods include the same things because its not a journey, but a process. But also, listening to my inner voice and trusting myself knowing that God is directing my every step. Making sure to get out the house because staying in the house for too long can began to have a negative affect. Making sure that I am meeting my children’s needs within limits which boosts my self-esteem. I am also following the creative passion of my younger years, massage and writing . I think doing something that you really love taps into the goodness of your soul and makes doing the things you do not like to do a lot easier.
Some other self-care methods for me:
- Reading & listening to the Word
- Carving out time for myself
- Burning Sage
- Long showers
- Appreciating beauty around me
What works for me, may not work for you, but I encourage you to google self-care tips. There is a plethora of information on self-care out there for us.
Whatever you choose to do, just take it one day at a time. For some of us, all we can do is take it one minute at a time and that is quite alright.
Love on yourself!
You are more than enough, as is, without change.
**If you feel the need to speak to a specialist, I encourage you to do so.**